5 Ways to Work Through Grief
Have you ever wondered how to work through grief? MaJhane shares 5 ways to work through grief from her personal experiences. If you are interested in the transcribed version of this episode, click here. If you want to stay updated be sure to check out this page!
5 Ways to Work Through Grief
We are living in a time where countless historical events are taking place right before our eyes. With these events have come death, destruction, and feelings of defeat. According to the CDC, grief is a natural response to death and/or a drastic change to daily routines. But don’t fret; not all hope is lost, even if it may feel like it. If you’ve been looking for ways to work through grief, look no further! The tips posted below are not a one size fits all solution. I’ve numbered them for convenience, but they are not ranked in any particular order. They are simply things that have helped me in my journal to heal. I hope that my personal experiences help show you that it is possible to catch sight of the rainbow on the other side of the storm.
1. Take Your Time
Even though we experience moments where time seems to stand still in unfortunate situations, realistically, the world is still moving. What can we do to remedy this? Nothing. Not existentially; I mean do nothing by taking the time you need. If you are fortunate enough to take time off from work, school, whatever obligations you have, I suggest you take it. Sometimes the best way to work through your grief is not to work at all. I struggled with this myself, thinking that I wasn’t as committed to my goals if I took time off from my work. DON’T LISTEN TO THIS KIND OF SELF-TALK. We all need a break from the hustle and bustle of everyday life. If you don’t have the luxury to take time off from your obligations, I recommend seeking support (read tip #4) for guidance. Allowing the time to process grief helps your healing process.
2. Accept Your Grief
Grieving is a tough process that puts a mental and emotional strain on you. It’s sometimes easier to run from those feelings by using distractions. But once the smoke clears and the dust settles, your grief will be there waiting for you. I think it’s fair to say that in most situations, the first step is acceptance. How can you expect yourself to move forward when you cant acknowledge the elephant in the room blocking your door to opportunities? It’s 100% going to suck, but it’s necessary. I found myself going from “I’m using this as an excuse to procrastinate on my goals” to “omg, I think I’m grieving?” It took a few days to realize, but I knew how to start catering to my needs once I did. Coupling this tip with a few others on the list will get you on your way to healthy healing.
3. Express Your Grief
If you are familiar with my podcast, you already know I’m a huge proponent of leaning into your emotions. Leaning in is a mental practice that helps to keep you mindful and living in the moment. There is no “one way” of doing this. I personally love a good cry session with my music blasting and sweet treats nearby. Journaling, creating art or making music are a few examples that could also help you release and express your grief. The main idea here is to let it all out. Holding in your emotions is what leads to a major blow-up later on down the line. This could also be a good time to lean in to your love language by offering yourself the love you enjoy most.
4. Seek Support
When you are experiencing grief, sometimes the last thing you want to do is invite someone into your space. You don’t want them to see the ugly crying, the dirty apartment, or to see you so vulnerable. Trust me, I completely understand. As an extroverted introvert, I sometimes have to force myself to interact with people to avoid losing touch with reality. And when I’m in the middle of an emotional breakdown, you can forget about it! But there has to be a means to an end. If you don’t want to confide in a family member or a friend, know that there are resources like:
- Treatment Services Locator Website
- National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
- Disaster Distress Helpline
- National Domestic Violence Hotline
- National Sexual Assault Hotlineexternal icon
Also, if you have insurance, make sure you utilize all the tools they offer. Insurance allows you to make use of services at a free/reduced rate. Speaking from experience here, look into it if you haven’t already. It could make all the difference!
5. Get Active
At first glance, this would make me eye-roll too but hear me out! Getting active doesn’t mean running laps at the gym. It could be taking a walk around your neighborhood or going on a hike. If you want to avoid leaving your house, this could be your opportunity to try yoga! According to the article, “Yoga: Changing The Brain’s Stressful Habits,” in Psychology Today, asana practices challenge you by using stressful circumstances (moving your body in poses it’s not used to) to practice calming techniques like deep breathing and mindfulness. This isn’t a one-time solution, though. This is more of a lifestyle change that you can incorporate into your daily routine to see significant differences. I’ve decided to start small and incorporate stretching into my morning routine before my feet touch the ground. You’d be surprised how many stretches you can do from the comfort of your bed…
The challenge for this week is to check on yourself. Grief is ever-present during this time, so it’s important to be cognizant. We learn best through trial and error, and as I continue on my grieving process, I plan to be as transparent as possible. Remember to give yourself time, accept and express your grief, seek support, and/or get active. Work through grief, don’t run from it.
If you find this information helpful, be sure to check out my other posts! Until we meet again, please be kind to one another, and from the bottom of my heart, I love you.